I like the idea of Valentine’s Day, but I don’t like all of the expensive and disposable gifts that often come with the marketed version of this holiday. Instead of shelling out your hard earned cash on $5 greeting cards and cheap, cheesy gifts this year, I challenge you to try some of the things on my list of Homestead Valentine Ideas. You could also call this my list of things I can do for Hubby that I know he’ll appreciate much more than anything I could pick up at the store.
Frugal Homestead Valentines:
Leave little notes.
Everyone loves getting a handwritten note, especially when it’s just for them. Forgo the expense, and insincerity, of quickly signed greeting cards and leave little personalized notes in special places for your significant other. A sticky note by the bathroom mirror, a folded up message in his wallet, lunch or pocket would be a pleasant surprise. I love leaving little notes around for Hubby to find! And if you do decide to go for that ready made greeting card this year, be sure to write your own personal sentiment inside as well!
Don’t limit your words to “I love you.”
There are lots of things to say on Valentine’s Day besides the standard I love you. Take the time to say something else to let your spouse or special someone know something else besides what they expect to hear. Thank them for being with you. Tell them why you love them. Compliment them on something they do that makes your life better. This year I am going to make an extra effort to ensure that Hubby knows I am especially thankful that’s he’s stuck by me through my brain surgery & so much more. The good ones are few & it’s important he knows I appreciate him!
Put on a pot of coffee.
Simply making coffee or tea for someone can be a great treat. Try getting up earlier than your spouse & brewing the morning beverage, or just pour a cup for no reason and bring it to him. I’m terrible about getting up in the morning, but I’m going to show Hubby that I love him this year by beating him to brewing his morning coffee and filling his cup for no reason.
Put shoes, gloves or other winter gear by the fire.
If you’re in a chronically cold climate like we are, you have snow-covered boots, wet gloves and other gear that could use drying and warming up. I’m showing Hubby that I care by bringing his boots & gloves to warm by the fire.
Just let it be.
Try to make an extra effort to be aware of your words, and also to let things go more easily. This year for Valentine’s Day, I’m really trying to watch how I react & respond or nag Hubby.
Do his/her share of the work.
You don’t have to do it all, unless you’re really motivated, but take care of a chore or two (or more!) that your spouse normally handles. This year, I’m trying my best to help out by doing some of the homestead jobs that Hubby normally handles himself. It’s hard, because I have to beat him to it!
Don’t wait until Valentine’s Day.
Instead of waiting until the 14th, start dolling out your Valentines now. I’ve already started the Valentine celebration at our home. Hopefully Hubby has noticed or will!
Let him know you like him.
It’s one thing to say you love someone, but have you conveyed to your spouse lately that you actually like them? I’m going to let Hubby know that I’m not here just because I love him, or I’m used to him, but I actually like him too. Hmmm… I sure hope he likes me!
Cook his favorite meal or treat.
If your special someone has a favorite meal, dessert or snack, then whip it up for them. Even if cooked from a boxed mix, it will be a treasured gesture. I’m planning to make Hubby some of his favorites for Valentine’s Day this year.
Give him time with you away from the kids.
If you have children, you know how valuable that time away from them, to focus on your spouse, can be. Find a way that you can have time away from the kids, even if only for an hour after they’ve gone to bed, and just be together. I’m going to make sure that we have more time together by (trying) to get up earlier with Hubby & spend more time one-on-one after chores are done in the evening.
Give him time to unwind after he’s done with his chores.
Even if you stay home to work, like we do, the actual working aspect of things can be stressful. Instead of bombarding Hubby with more chores or problems to fix as soon as he’s come inside from the fields or the barn, I’m going to give him some time to unwind.
Give him time away.
Even in a team, the partner needs time away. It’s nothing personal, but some time alone or with a friend can be so energizing and rewarding (for both spouses!). Hubby & I are together something like 25/8. Ok, I realize that’s not possible, but we are together a lot – nearly always. I’ve seen the benefits of Hubby getting some time alone or going out fishing with a guy friend. I’m going to be there to remind Hubby that he needs time like that for himself so he continues. Besides, the more he goes fishing, the more fish I get to eat!
Compliment your spouse.
How often do you compliment your significant other? Most people sincerely appreciate receiving a compliment and it also boosts confidence. I’m trying harder to compliment Hubby so he knows that I appreciate all the amazing things that he does around here.
Gift a massage.
I have yet to meet a person that dislikes receiving a massage. It’s a great, no cost way to show your partner you love them. I’m planning to give Hubby a massage this Valentine’s Day.
Dedicate a poem.
Whether you write it yourself or copy a verse from a book, a poem is a romantic way to show your spouse you care. I’m going to work on a little, personalized poem for Hubby & read it to him this year.
Send a sweet text.
If you have a cell phone, send your love a sweet text to let him know you are thinking of him. We share a cell, so I will be sending Hubby some sweet nothings to the phone via e-mail when he’s out & about.
Wear his favorite outfit.
If your honey likes you in a certain outfit, wear it! I’m going to try to wear a few of Hubby’s favorite things for Valentine’s Day this year. Or maybe he gets a smile from seeing you in his favorite sweatshirt.
Stop what you’re doing & slow dance for no reason. There doesn’t even have to be any music. You might be surprised at what a positive beat it can put into your day. I’ve been making a habit of stopping Hubby now & again as he walks by so we can dance for a moment. It’s not just nice for us, but our children get a chance to see some positive affection between mom & dad.
Let him love you.
Perhaps one of the most difficult things to do is to actually let your partner love you. I know that is a difficult one for me! This Valentine’s Day, I’m going to make a sincere effort to actually let Hubby let me. No snarky comments, no doubting it when he says, no refusing compliments… I’m going to let him love me.